Parents often tell me that their children don’t like to lose. Well, that’s natural. I don’t like to lose either. I don’t know too many people who do. However, it is valuable to learn to handle losses with good manners.
We teach our students from the start that when you win or lose you should always shake your opponent’s hand and say “Good game!” Many games will be played and no one can expect to win every game.
I tell our students that good manners is important. It is part of being a chess player. We talk about the right way to handle a win, too. Jumping up and saying, “I WON, YOU LOST!! HA HA HA!” is not polite. Neither is bursting into tears and running away from the chess board, if you lose.
Kids get this. They laugh and nod in agreement.
Last week I was very pleased when a mother of one of our 5-year-old students called me. Her son had been home from school sick for the day and they had played chess.
That on its own was pretty cool!
Written by Laura Sherman of YourChessCoach.com
Then she had told me that she always had trouble with her son when he lost at Candyland or some other game. But when they played chess, he was different. When he lost a piece, he actually said, “Good one, mom!” to her with a smile. She was astonished and very pleased.
I love hearing these stories back from parents!
Laura Sherman founded Your Chess Coach (YourChessCoach.com) with her husband, Dan Sherman. Together they teach children to play chess through various schools in Pinellas County, Florida, as well as online. You can learn more about YourChessCoach and other local and online chess instructors on our Chess Instructors page.
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